I was freaking out over a conversation when my wife looked deep into my eyes and told me, “Hey, I understand you’ve been through a lot, and the impact of the toxic, abusive experiences you’ve had is real, but I am your best friend, and I am going to be your wife.
How long am I going to have to pay for what they did to you? How long am I going to have to interact with their voices? I want a relationship with you, not them, because I love you and what you and I have can be good and healthy.” At that moment, I realized I was terrified because when all we know are unhealthy, toxic and abusive dynamics, being in a new relationship can be scary, even if it’s a good one.
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