To the person I hurt because of my ambivalent attachment style: You: Me: Narrator: I know the above scenarios have played out in our relationship, and its likely left you feeling confused, rejected or even hurt — I’m sorry.
I know it regularly occurs, and I want you to know I don’t do it on purpose. To tell you the truth, as it’s happening I often don’t even recognize it.
Sometimes after the fact, I do figure out I should have said yes, and I wonder why I didn’t. Other times it sort of floats over my head like some insignificant small talk and I don’t even realize how my response could be hurtful. I want to explain why this happens and offer some suggestions. I have what’s called an ambivalent attachment style.
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