One of the most painful pieces of coming from a relational trauma background is the absence of having had and still not having the kind of parenting that felt and feels adequate, supportive and like a safety net you can turn to when life feels hard and overwhelming (which, in adulthood, it often does).
The very natural and normal impulse to call your mother (or father or other guardian) when life feels hard and challenging, for many, doesn’t ever fully fade.
But, even though the longing lingers, you may increasingly know that, if you do reach out looking for support, you’ll likely just get hurt, disappointed and even angry when presented with the reality of your parent — a parent who simply can’t meet your needs because they don’t have the
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