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relaxed or at ease in the company of others.In junior high, a group of the most popular girls called each other every night to hash over the school day and gossip. My best friend was in this group, and while I was comfortable talking with her, I felt awkward talking on the phone with anyone else. For example, the first and only time I talked on the phone with “Judy” I knew I was expected to talk to her for one hour or more.

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“Shame Spiral Advice from the Counselor with ADHD Who Needs to Take Her Own Advice”

“Positive reinforcement, encouragement, and rewards help us create good habits; shame, criticism, and negative self-talk do not,” I say to a client, terrified that they see right through me and know that I’m actively beating myself up for falling weeks behind on paperwork.I was diagnosed with ADHD at 24 years old in the middle of earning my masters in clinical mental health counseling. I had always been praised for my intelligence.

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Guilt, shame, embarrassment, envy, and jealousy An emotion expert’s account of these difficult emotions

I’d like to discuss some difficult emotions such as guilt, shame, and embarrassment. These emotions do not have unique facial expressions. Guilt and shame are hard to distinguish from sadness, except for the possibility that the head may be turned away.

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“How a Few Great Books Ended My ADHD Shame Spiral”

“Am I just like Brian?”I stored the thought in the back of my mind and pondered it every now and again. Then, during an evaluation, my supervisor mentioned a few issues with my work habits, and a bell sounded in my head.“Ding! Dong! This sounds like ADHD!”“I think I have ADHD,” I told my supervisor.“I think so, too,” she said. She had a grandson with ADHD and was familiar with the symptoms.I told the pediatrician during my son’s check-in appointment, “I think I have ADHD.”He replied, “You do!”It was disconcerting that the doctor had only observed me at short routine appointments, yet had made this conclusion.

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6 Steps to Dismantling Internalized Shame

How can you be so good at some very difficult things, but so bad at basic tasks like opening mail, paying bills and showing up for appointments on time? It doesn’t make sense.Shame damages our sense of self and can lead us down many dark paths — poor self-esteem, unhealthy coping strategies, strained relationships, and problems in practically all areas of life.When you believe that you’re broken, you focus on your weaknesses, become blind to your strengths, and don’t know what it means to live to your potential. But what if you adopted these strategies to shatter internalized shame? Could you flip the script on your life?An ADHD diagnosis presents challenges.

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Live Webinar on October 12: ADHD Awareness Month: Combating Stereotypes About Women, Men, and Children with ADHD

Not available October 12? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.Few conditions in medicine and psychology suffer from more caricature, stereotype, flat-out lies, or disinformation than ADHD.

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You Are Worthy of Self-Compassion: How to Break the Habit of Internalized Criticism

self-compassion. Start by asking: What do you wish for yourself? What facet or result of self-acceptance or forgiveness would you most like to see for yourself? Maybe it’s forgiving those moments where you forgot an appointment or learning how to laugh at the times you said the ‘wrong’ thing in social situations.

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Live Webinar on October 12: ADHD Awareness Month: Combating Stereotypes About Women, Men, and Children with ADHD

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Live Webinar on October 12: ADHD Awareness Month: Combating Stereotypes About Women, Men, and Children with ADHD

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How Does RSD Really, Actually Feel?

rejection sensitive dysphoria. RSD is the term used to describe extreme emotional sensitivity and pain triggered by the perception (not always the reality) of criticism and/or rejection.

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ADHD Self-Doubt, Shame & Gaslighting: My Anything-But-Perfect Storm

intense and confusing emotional situation, my brain fills in the missing pieces so that the full narrative makes sense while I search for more evidence. The “truth” is then argued and reinforced through rumination.

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Rejection Sensitivity Is Worse for Girls and Women with ADHD

rejection sensitive dysphoria — and many women with ADHD identify with the experience. Studies link rejection sensitivity to depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, body dysmorphic disorder, bipolar disorder, and autism, but it appears to be most strongly associated with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD).

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Neutralize Chronic Shame by Understanding Its Source

ADHD or ADD), but it is certainly intensified by ADHD. Shame is more than embarrassment; it’s a sinking, sickening feeling.

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How The Fear of Judgement Controls You

What it means being controlled by pain, shame and fear of judgement…We are in unique times, where past hurts and insecurities are coming up to the surface, currently on a daily basis, for us to clear. We are also in times where we can address the roots of these pains and either let them go or simply acknowledge the lessons they offered.One such thing that causes incredible insecurity and suffering is the shame bought on by judgement.

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Shame: The Other Emotion in Depression & Anxiety

Psychologists have identified anywhere between 6 and 10 basic emotions experienced by humans. The American psychologist Paul Ekman who developed an “atlas of emotions” mapping more than 10,000 facial expressions, identified six universal or “primary” emotions: anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, and surprise. It will come as a surprise to no one that the primary emotion in depression is sadness and in anxiety fear. However, many people with one of those disorders experience an excess of both emotions.

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