“Shaming makes the child wrong for feeling, wanting or needing something.” – Robin Grille“Harsh, critical parental behavior produces shame-prone, perfectionistic children who then pass the family bad habit down to their children.” – Lynne NamkaIn our last post, we talked about how the mild shame that helps us learn social rules can get twisted into toxic shame when children are punished.Of course, ALL children will at times feel, want or need something and express it in socially unacceptable ways.Say YES aloud several times.
What do you feel? I smile and feel excited, happy, tingly.Now say NO aloud several times. What do you feel? My smile dies. My body feels tight, contracted, trapped.
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