7 Ways To Keep Your Kids Honest

“I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect, and I loved you even more.” ~Angelita Lim

Not available March 1? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.This webinar is Part Two in a series. Part One is available for replay at https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/anger-management-outbursts-adhd-triggers/ADHD brings with it strong emotions — but few tools for managing those emotions in ways that feel good.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and substance use disorders (SUD) overlap considerably. About a quarter of adults with SUD have ADHD, and individuals with ADHD are three times more likely to develop a SUD.12 What’s more, SUD is often more severe in individuals with ADHD.3Research confirms that ADHD treatment (i.e., stimulant medication) drastically improves symptoms of both conditions and outcomes for patients with ADHD and SUC.

Unique challenges can sink a marriage when one or both partners have ADHD.Here, our relationship experts provide solutions for common problems when one or both partners have ADHD and offer guidance for creating healthy and enduring bonds.Q: “My spouse has ADHD. How can I handle their mood changes, impulsivity, and anger outbursts?”When our partners are dysregulated, it’s often quite difficult to stay calm in the moment. We might hear hurtful or provocative things, or endure behaviors related to anger or frustration, like slamming doors or throwing objects.

I’ve had my share of bad friends in my life, but honestly, none of them impacted me as much as seeing my child deal with toxic friends. While I know I can deal with whatever, it really hurts my heart when I see my child struggle.When your child is dealing with toxic friends, it can be a hard situation to navigate. On one hand, you may want to swoop in and save them, while pushing the friends out of the picture, but on the other hand, you likely realize that you don’t want to make the wrong move and push your child even closer to the toxic friend.

Lackluster and inconsistent motivation are part and parcel of ADHD. From a lack of self-confidence to a desire for autonomy (and its corollary, defiance), tweens and teens with ADHD struggle to get and stay motivated — especially on the tough stuff — for myriad reasons.Deficits in executive function (EF) — the brain tools that allow us to plan, organize, prioritize, initiate, and meet our goals — are a major contributor to motivation challenges in adolescents with ADHD.

Eating can be a reflection of your lifestyle. Your lifestyle can significantly affect the way you eat. Factors such as time constraints, social influences, and mental health can all lead to unhealthy eating habits. Poor dietary choices can lead to weight gain, chronic diseases, and eating disorders like bulimia. A healthy lifestyle means eating balanced […]

Eating disorders like anorexia nervosa (AN), bulimia nervosa (BN), and binge-eating disorder (BED) typically begin in adolescence, but they are increasingly seen in younger children.Researchers have linked the rise of eating disorders in children and teens to the pandemic and the ongoing youth mental health crisis, among other stressors.12Social media may also play a role in driving body image dissatisfaction and negative comparison among teens.3 What’s more, children and teens with conditions like anxiety, depression, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are at greater risk for developing eating disorders.4 ,5Eating disorders are complex but treatable conditions. Early detection greatly improves recovery and health outcomes.If you are concerned that your child is showing signs of an eating disorder like AN, BN, or BED, answer the questions below and share the results with your child’s pediatrician or a licensed mental health professional who is experienced in diagnosing and treating eating disorders.If you or a loved one are suffering from an eating disorder, contact the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) for support, resources, and treatment options. Call or text NEDA at 800-931-2237 or visit www.nationaleatingdisorders.org to reach a NEDA volunteer.This self-test was adapted from materials provided in “Identification and Management of Eating Disorders in Children and Adolescents” published by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

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Q: “How can I get my teen to buy into the importance of using an academic planner or at least writing things down? She thinks it is a waste of time and won’t listen to me when I suggest it.” — ProPlannerMomHi ProPlannerMom:One of the most frequent questions I hear from parents is how to get their students to use a daily planner. And as an academic/life coach who works daily with students with ADHD and executive functioning challenges (as well as the creator of an academic planner that teaches time management), my answer may surprise you.Using an academic planner is a terrific strategy for knowing what we need to do and when we have the time to do it.

When emotions are high, things can get ugly fast, especially when you are dealing with a tiny person who has HUGE emotions. During these moments, you may struggle to understand how to help your child move through their emotions and reach a sense of calm, but thankfully, we have some helpful tips that will help you tackle tough emotions like a boss.It’s important to remember that some adults even have problems dealing with big emotions, so we must understand that little one who hasn’t fully emotionally developed should be expected to have a difficult time doing so.

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The first time my son lied to me, I took it personally. Even though I knew it would happen one day, I couldn’t help but be worried.Then, I began catching him in more lies and started to wonder, “Is there something wrong?” However, I had to remind myself that kids are humans, and sometimes, humans lie. Now, don’t get me wrong, I wanted to get to the bottom of it immediately, to avoid future lies and problems.

No parent sets out to play favorites with their children. However, because none of us are perfect, there may be a child you are showing favor to without even realizing it.It is normal for a parent to feel a stronger connection to one of their children, but that does not make you a bad parent. However, it’s important that you show your children the same amount of love and care, otherwise your children may become insecure and struggle with themselves.

It’s that time of year again when the world screams, “New year, new you!”Every January, without fail, we are inundated with messages about transforming our apparent less-than-optimal selves into something better. (“Shrink your waistline in 30 days,” and “Power up your mental health with these protein shakes,” read the subject lines in my inbox, to name a few.)I have been trying to create a “new” me for most of my life. The “old” me, according to most, was too quiet, too intense, too awkward, too sensitive, and too focused.

Now, research is showing more and more the impact of emotional support and the impact on the way we talk to our children. If you find that you are saying any of the following, don’t beat yourself up, just make sure to begin using the better phrases provided instead.I grew up in a time when people did not understand that saying things like “You are fine, ” “Stop crying,” or the old “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” was emotionally invalidating. When you do this, you are making your child fear their emotions.

Not available January 31? Don’t worry. Register now and we’ll send you the replay link to watch at your convenience.People with ADHD face an elevated risk for substance use disorder (SUD).

An epiphany is a sudden revelation — an “aha” moment — that often strikes after you’ve adopted a new perspective.My goal as an ADHD coach is to help people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) view their condition differently. When they finally get to me, I know they’ve not yet experienced this “aha” moment because their stories are almost all the same: They’ve tried it all — to no avail — and they’re drowning in strategies for managing their life with ADHD.This is when I can step in to help them reach a crucial epiphany: They’ve been looking at the roots of their ADHD challenges — from procrastination and motivation to prioritization and productivity — all wrong.Here are the most important ADHD insights I’ve collected and shared with my clients over the years to help them separate their symptoms from themselves and reach their goals.Every time we think, we engage our executive functions — a set of cognitive processes that allow us to plan, organize, remember information, and initiate action on a goal.

“Self-reflection is necessary to dig beneath our own layers and visit the inner crevices of our heart and mind to develop an understanding of life.” ~Unknown

When you think of your child’s needs, what comes to mind? While children do have physical needs, like food, clothing, shelter, and exercise, they have emotional needs as well, and those should never be overlooked.While taking care of our children physically by ensuring they have the right nutrition, clothing on their backs, and a warm home to sleep in are all important, it is just as important if not more important to ensure their emotional needs are addressed as well. Think of it this way: we are our children’s emotional support network and emotional coaches. For them to flourish as people, their needs need to be met fully.

Parenting is a complex job, with many roles and responsibilities being placed on the shoulder of the parents. What makes things even more difficult, is trying to know what you should and shouldn’t be doing for your child.In your child’s life, there are decisions that you will have to make for your child, and for good reason, your child is not always able to make wise choices for themselves. In other cases, though, it is an invasion of your child’s boundaries for you to make choices for them.

. Now, for the good news: Although there’s bound to be factors that are beyond your control, feeling more confident about your finances can help you navigate whatever comes your way.What does financial security look like in 2023? We talked with five experts about everything from the economy to the job market to financial markets to find out what to expect.

?The question is about as hard to dodge as the “So, are you dating anyone?” questions you hear at nearly every family function. As the new year approaches, we as a society tend to do a lot of reflecting on how the last 365 days unfolded. Did we like we planned? Were we able to impress our bosses enough to ? Did we find someone to love, or ?Although the holidays are a time of joy and gratitude, we often fill the last days of the year with forward thinking, our faces to the horizon, looking for ways to make the following year even better.

Q: “How do I keep my child interested in rewards for good behavior? He seems to lose interest in rewards after a few weeks, even if they were greatly appealing to him at first. Does ADHD have anything to do with it? How can I ensure that rewards remain effective and motivating over time?”It’s not in your head — there is growing evidence that children with ADHD differ from their neurotypical peers in their sensitivity to rewards.

Soon after my toddler was diagnosed with ADHD (and with an extremely high score), we were told to expect a home visit from Cal, the child psychologist who would teach us behavior management strategies to use with Kip. Though my son’s diagnosis left us downcast, scared, and uncertain about the future, we at least had vital information. And knowing that a behavior management plan was in the works made me feel I was not navigating entirely in the dark.In the weeks leading up to his first home visit, Cal asked us to keep a diary of Kips’ behaviors.

One of my biggest fears is waking up one day and realizing my whole life has passed before my eyes and that I have missed opportunities. It might sound silly to some, but if you have been there, then you know how very real this fear can be.Due to this fear, I have made it my mission to lead the best life I can lead. Part of this has been trying to not waste the precious time I have been given.

December 30, 2022Adults with severe ADHD symptoms were more likely to be expelled and receive reprimands from teachers as school children compared to adults with less severe or no ADHD symptoms, according to a partial study published this month in the Journal of Attention Disorders.1Researchers compared the school experiences and intensity of ADHD symptoms in 1,518 adults from the Czech Republic aged 18 to 65. Participants answered questions from the Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS) and were grouped according to symptom manifestation, or “ADHD type”: low, medium, and high.Findings revealed that those with higher ADHD symptoms were “significantly more likely to be expelled, receive notes for bad behavior, disturbing or forgetting, as well as receive reprimands from teachers” as children.“The results suggest that children with higher ADHD symptomatology are more likely to be forgetful, restless, and misbehave — which then gets written down by their teachers,” researchers said.

If you have a child that ignores all of the consequences given to them, it can be frustrating. It can even make you feel hopeless, but there are a few ways to work around this and make consequences stick, no matter how resilient your child may seem.When kids act as though consequences do not bother them, they aren’t doing so to be bad. They are doing so because consequences make them feel powerless and by shrugging it off, they are taking some of their power back.

You and I will probably come across a hundred articles about New Year’s resolutions in 2023 … again. And, if you and I are like the majority—the well-intentioned, regular people who genuinely want change—we will aspire to big things and later get frustrated and give up on the list we made … again.

“Don’t mistake being informed by trusting what you hear or read in the news. The most trusted information is what you feel in your gut.” ~Charles F Glassman

Being a parent is a stressful job, there is no doubt about that. There is never a shortage of things to do, so to say it gets stressful is an understatement.None of us are perfect, that much is true. Sometimes, the struggles of parenting can be a bit overwhelming, and there will be times when you just want to scream.

“Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Even though you want to run. Even when it’s heavy and difficult. Even though you’re not quite sure of the way through. Healing happens by feeling.” ~Dr. Rebecca Ray

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