7 Things You Gain When You Let Go of Control

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When you try to control too much, you enjoy too little. Sometimes you just need to let go, relax, take a deep breath and love what is.This morning I met up with an old friend, someone whom I care about deeply but have internally struggled with for years because I’ve always been worried about her health.I want to help her heal, because I feel I’m losing her.I want to teach her the time-tested tools for living a happier, simpler, healthier life that I’ve helped so many other people with — so she can give up her addictions, take up exercise and mindfulness, nurture her needs, and suddenly be transformed into a healthy person again.But that’s not reality.

I want to control something that frightens me, but I can’t do anything about it. Because I’m not in control of anyone but myself.

I want to help my friend, but she’s not interested in being helped. She’s actually told me so a dozen times in the past.So today, I let go.Not “let go” as in “let her go.” I “let go” as in I stopped trying to control, stopped trying to change her, and instead took a deep breath and accepted her for exactly who she is.And guess what?